What I m abt to share with U is related love and acceptance between a couple. I do not seek to give U any answers, in fact U may even find me asking U more questions, but hopefully these questions can lead U to find Ur own answers.
"The coin has 2 sides, Head n Tail. So if one cuts the coin into half, then can it be still truly considered as a coin, n what then will be its value?" Lets picture a scenario with the person accepting the coin and the coin itself, then visualise tt this can represent a couple. Then now lets look from the perspective of the person accepting the coin.
As I hv said "the coin has 2 sides". So now lets say U got a partner who is always pleasing everyone, then what is his/her other side? He/she is either pleasing every1 at the expense of himself/herself or he/she is just pretending.
So now lets say U got a some1 who is honest n direct, then what is his/her other side? Cant sugercoat his/her words, not diplomatic, blunt.
So lets say if U found this super sweet guy/gal who spends so much time doing sweet things for ya, then what is the other side? Now think abt it, do U reli think he/she has much time to spend on establishing his/her career?
So now lets say if U r attracted to this guy/gal who is reli excellent in pursuing his/her career, then what is the other side? Higher priority on career then U.
Then now U comment tt the partner shd balance. Ok now lets see how abt a guy/gal who is 50-50 balance, is he reli tt gd? Well, life is real and there will always be situations that will compel ppl to make decisions and priorities. So when tt happens, what is the 50-50 guy/gal gonna tell ya, "Hello I m 50-50, cannot decide la. Half half can?" So perhaps the word balance in this case does not reli means 50-50, then how abt 70-30? Gd balance, has priorities yet leaves some room. But 70-30 leh, tt means when the situation calls for him/her to choose, he/she will be on the side on the 70 at the expense of the 30. Tt means he/she is inclined to taking a side. Now it doesn sound all tt perfect rite? He/she is still the coin which is in fact the combination of the potential positive effects n negative effects of his/her tendency, his/her inclination.
Maybe for the person deciding accept the coin, he/she shd consider the coin's both sides and if that person decides to accept tt coin, he/she shd be prepared n will readily accept the consequences of the decision with strong resolve.
Then now lets look from the perspective of the coin. Think abt this, is it true tt every1 in this world wans to be love for who they reli r, n not just for their strengths only? No1 is perfect, n tt means to love some1 for who tt person wholly is, is to also accept tt imperfection. Nevertheless, we all just wish tt someday we can find some1 who loves us for just who we r. If the coin can feel, it too would wan to be accepted for its head n its tail, cos without either 1, it will hv no value at all, a half coin cannot be used to trade rite? Maybe for the coin, he/she shd just be v transparent of who he/she reli is in the 1st place.
Maybe he/she shd be very honest with him/herself n the other person, n shd not even start tt relationship at all when the conditions do not match. Then when accepted, shd do his/her best in commiting to tt relationship to uphold the value of tt relationship n not regretting it.
In reality in a relationship, one is both the person n the coin. Every1 wans to find a coin of gd value, n every1 wans to be love for just who they r. N when one has a more holistic picture of this,U may understand tt yeah both must give n take for it to be fair. This entry may sound abit confusing, n may ask U for some reflections, but as U patiently read through it, I wish it will serve to remind U of some basic things tt may just slipped pass Ur mind. N I wish to conclude by wishing U all the very best in ur quest for happiness. Cheers :)
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I would like to comment that a coin by itself is perfect. That is why the probability of it has head or tail. 50% each. But a person cannot be compared with a coin since a person as you said is inperfect. In mathematical terms, that means that if u wanna compare light to light, the coin has got to be a biased coin. And that has different probabilities for the head and the tail le.
Hahaha... A coin is perfect? my apologies but is anything ever perfect in this world? haha.
N I wld appreciate tt U leave a name with ur comments, thk U hahaha.
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