A Letter abt the space tt a couple shd hv.

It is wonderful tt a couple thinks n feels alike n uds each other v well, this is great, this is love, this is affinity. Yet how can any1 agree all the time? Is tt possible? what happens when disagreements appear?

Just cos ppl come 2gether 2 be a couple for however long doesn mean they r joined at the hip n hv to alw think the same, alw do the same, alw feel the same, alw react the same. The reality is tt the most successful relationships r the ones where the couple is strong 2gether but also strong apart. The best relationships are the ones where both r supportive of each other's interest even if they are not their own.

Being supportive of the partner n what he/she wans 2 do means one has to be v steady oneself not to feel jealous or mistrustful or resentful. It is necessary to prepare for the partner to be independent, strong, out in the world separate from one. It can be hard, it can ask alot, it can be a real test of how much one cares n how protective one is.

The more freedom given/tolerated/encouraged shd also mean tt the freedom is also reciprocated. The reason is tt if a person feels tt he/she is encouraged n trusted, he/she is much less likely to stray or want out becos of feeling caged. After all, love is also abt Support n Encouragement.

But what if one disagrees w what the partner wants to do? As long as it isn hurtful to one or in any serious way jeopardizes the relationship, then we must all uds tt every1 is a unque individual entitled to do pretty well at whatever we want to do. This may actually be more abt oneself then the partner, one may need to reli ask oneself what is it abt the partner's decision tt one finds it hard to get along with.

Its a funny thing tt we often fall in love with some1 becos they independent, in control, unique. Then the second we r together with them, we try to change them, coming over all jealous if they carry on their independence as if being in a relationship limits them, ties them, n cuts off their wings.

Well perhaps the solution is actually to be encouraging n supportive even when the partner wants to step outside n rediscover his/her energy n vitality. the partner may need to spend some time rediscovering visions, dream, skills n talents at independence. N U may need to sit on Ur hands at times to avoid reining them in. So encourage, stand back n sit on Ur hands when necessary, close in n support when necessary, n alw be there. The magic is tt the couple spend time apart to bring something back to the relationship tt benifits the relationship. This is healthy, this is gd, this mature.

So this is abt the space between a couple. A hug is v comfortable, but if 2 ppl keep hugging each other so closely, then how can they ever see each others faces, each others eyes? So life is abt Timing, there is a time to close in n encourage n be in v intimate contact, yet there is also a time to step back n smile n be supportive. However, the key point is close up or far back, alw alw be there.

"Love is also abt being ever so in love w each other together, n ever so encouraging n supportive when apart. It is reli abt bulding up each other when together n also when apart."

Cheers my Dearest Frens, I wish U all success n happiness in love.